Tuesday, February 09, 2010
My Daughter is Unique
My daughter is her own person. She will grow up to be her unique self. This is true with any child, special or not.
A big mistake that parents sometimes make is to compare their children to others. Today I found myself comparing my daughter to someone else's.
I felt sad because the other babies her age were already cooing and smiling meanwhile my daughter would only cry, make grunting sounds and squeaky noises. She would not even really look at me and we have not seen her flash us a smile to let us know that she knows we're there. She would not visually track objects, and her eye contact was brief and inconsistent (which means not quite making eye contact after all). I felt pity for her and for myself.
I told my husband about this and to try and cheer me up he goes...
"Our daughter may not coo or smile or make eye contact just yet... but it seems like the squeaky noises she makes is a form of communication... much like echolocation. Talk about talent!"
I should not compare my daughter. Not to other children her age, not to how her brother was when he was her age, and not even to other special needs children her age. She will be her own person with her own set of skills and talents and strengths and weaknesses... with her own temperament and demeanor and attitude. She will grow up into a unique person that will just find her way deeper into our hearts.
She will wow us away.... and we will cheer on and find joy with every milestone she makes in her own unique perfect pace and timing.
I can't wait.